I know, teens have been hurting thier moms and dads since the beginning of time. Knowing this doesn't necesarraly make it any easier to accept.
What if you have a 15 year old and a 17 year old who both tell you on a regular basis that the hate you? Do you start doubting your parenting skills, or do you think maybe you are doing something right?
It might help if you bought every book on parenting teenagers on the shelves at Barns and Noble, but it might not.
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It hurts to hear hatred words from the kids you live your entire life for.
Hugs.
Coming from a teenager's perspective... We are awful to our parents and we all know it. BUT (and I'm just speaking for myself here)most of the time I regret it so much afterwards. The majority of the time when we say cruel things it is while we are arguing with you (parents) or when we have had an awful day. It is ahrd for parents, I understand that, but it's hard to have to grow up as well. We want to grow up so fast some days and want nothing more than to move out and be on our own. And other days we want to cuddle and be little again, but dont quite know hoe to tell our parents that.
anyway, I have rambled on enough.
Feel free to shoot me an email if you'd like to talk more: eendje@clear.net.nz
*Hugs*
It will get better. =-)
SLM,
Yes, it hurts and makes you wonder if they know all that you for and feel for them.
For me, I know in the back of my mind they do, but just have the teen devil inside of them. :-)
I am sorry it took me so long to reply to your post. I didn't get an email saying there was a comment left.
Thanks for the hugs. Here are some right back at you!
Caroline,
Thank you for the post. I guess I know what you say is true of my girls too, it is just hard to hear the comments about not being able to wait until they are 18 to move out.
I know this round was brought on by my interfering with her love life, something I think was definitely in her best interest, and something I don't regret. I know she was hurting, and upset. Things are a little better now. We have an agreement that if she truly takes a break from the relationship, we will not make it hard for her to be friends with him in 6 months. We hope in that amount of time, she can see some of the scary things we saw in their relationship. She may not, sometimes you have to make mistakes and learn the hard way, but as a mother, I want to keep her from as much of that as possible, even knowing that she will learn from mistakes, and that is all part of growing up.
Thank you again for posting. It is good to be reminded of the other point of view from time to time.
You can also email me at JulieOshields@gmail.com any time you want to.
Julianna
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